What to Pay

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What would be a reasonable amount to pay an almost-10-year-old for light-responsibility babysitting (I'll always be here), light housework, and also perhaps organizing/babyproofing.

And while I'm at it, (and so I don't have to ask again) what about the same duties more or less, what would you pay an adult? What about a teenager?


ETA: My baby is 4 months old.

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hi, im jes, im 25, married, and have a 5yo daughter.
my husband is in the marine corps, and im a sahm.
i homeschool. we eat mostly organic.
i suppose i practice ap. though i havnt read up on it since andi's infancy, so i dont really have a label for my beliefs/practices.

we are agnostic. and i try to teach my daughter understanding and diversity.

we live in a really small area. where the afformentioned < understanding and diversity > are incredibly hard to come by.

i do somewhat freelance portraiture, along with arts and crafts, and babysit a friends child to contribute to our funds.

me and my daughter are in the icon.
if i left anything out please let me know. and ill fix. or answer questions.
i look forward to getting to know everyone.

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I know I haven't been the most active participant of this community in awhile, and I apologize- I'm going to try harder, I swear.

In the meantime, though, I feel like I've lost control of my children completely. I really need help here. I have the three (special needs 6 yr old boy, 2 1/2, and 1 1/2 yr old girls) They walk all over me and run my house. I feel like those horrific families on Supernanny. I don't know what I'm doing wrong, though. I swear I'm following all the respected parenting techniques. They get positive reinforcement, 1-2-3 time outs, plenty of outside time, excersize, socialization, daily and weekly chores around the house, and they eat healthy. I restrict TV time and game time to a bare minimum and try to make them earn their privileges.

But here I am to the point of screaming my head off all day long because they won't listen to me unless I yell at the top of my lungs. If they are in one room together for more than 10 seconds they're beating up on one another and fighting loudly. I can't leave them for even the time it takes me to clean one room in my house, and they've got the rest of the house trashed. No matter how much I make them pick up their own messes, they fight and yell and cry about it until eventually at least 2 or the 3 are in time outs. Then after they've picked up, they go right back to destroying it all again. EVERYTHING has become a battle.

I'm half tempted to take ALL their toys away, leave their rooms bare and throw them outside to let them fight it out for the summer. Last kid standing wins? J/K ;) My 2 year old won't stay out of anything and she can get through all the childproof locks/gates/doorknobs. She's taken to shrieking at the top of her lungs if anything doesn't go her way, tantruming, and flatly refusing to potty train. Worst of all- she's teaching my younger daughter all of these things as well, so I'm about to have two awful girls on my hands. As if one wasn't bad enough. My son has taken to whining and begging and moping around the house all day. I literally have to FORCE the kid to go outside and play, then he sits out there moaning about how he wants to come in.

My husband tries to help as much as he can, but unfortunately he has to work a lot. On the few days he is home, he's ready to kill them himself by the end of the day. My friends are starting to comment that "Rachel, you know we love your kids- but they're psycho." My house has become one tension ridden, screaming, fighting, crying, bickering war zone and I'M SICK OF IT! I feel like the worst mom on earth and I'm seriously tempted some days to just drive away. That makes me feel even worse. I'm humiliated to even admit I'm having half of these problems.

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ok my last post was a little rambled and i didnt get a lot of responces so im trying again.

Levi keeps saying "i'll kill you" and now he is telling me "brandon (my husband) is going to kill me"

this was picked up from the kids outside that he played with one day and will never play with again. my problem is how do i stop the bad words and phrases now! Levi visits with his dad regularly and if he goes to his dads and says "brandon is going to kill me" im sure he will be getting the law involved!

i know when i was little and said "bad" words i got my mouth rinsed out with soap. that is not ap and i cant do that. how do i stop this, now?

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I’m not particularly sure how to start this post, or even if such a post is allowed in this type of community, but I thought I’d give it a shot because I think it’s important.

I’ve never really cared for kids, and I certainly never thought I’d be a parent (both being gay and not liking children), but as I’ve become older, the notion of having a kid has grown on me. I guess time will tell. I have a good relationship with both of my parents, so I like to think they did a pretty good job.

Anyway, as I’m cross-posting this to a variety of parenting communities, the major content is behind an lj-cut for your convenience. Still, I’d appreciate your help.

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I’d appreciate your help, if you’re willing. I have a feeling many of you would take away from being a member, and your future (or current) children may benefit from your open mind. If you have any questions, please let me know. And again, I apologize if this sort of post isn’t allowed, although I do believe it fits within the scope of this community.


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